I'd like to thank Tyla Bradby for being awesome and sharing her story with us. She's an up-and-coming YouTuber, who does an excellent job explaining each aspect of her mental health journey. My biggest takeaway from hearing Tyla's story is that the mental health journey is multi-faceted. So often people try to pinpoint a single problem, when in fact, we as humans have complex, but beautiful backgrounds and histories and emotions and brain waves that define who we are as people. Each of us have a mental health background that has depth and history and cannot just be boxed into a single word like anxiety or depression. Often our struggle is much deeper than that. Fortunately Tyla has found peace and therapy through sharing her story on YouTube. I hope others can learn from Tyla's success and gather the courage to start their own channels. Please note, Tyla's videos included in this article are unlisted. She was kind enough to share them with us, so please be sure to drop her a like and a subscribe for her generosity and time.
Video 1: ANXIETY: https://youtu.be/M_Xw77i6ZxM
Video 2: CHRONIC FATIGUE: https://youtu.be/eurq7UNRN5k
Video 3: AUDITORTY PROCESSING DISORDER: https://youtu.be/tnd8HyUrZD8
Video 4: HYPER-MOBILITY: https://youtu.be/1zo2e4-wrFY
Video 5: ASPERGER/AUTISM: https://youtu.be/LL_BY5AVo_g
1. Why did you create your YouTube channel?
Tyla: I created my youtube channel because honestly I loved the fact that anyone around thew world can watch me talk, do my hair and makeup and look stupid BUT ENJOY IT. It sounds weird and crazy at once but I love connecting with people online and not knowing them but feeling like you do- even if that is more one-sided.
I love makeup and I really have a passion for that so doing youtube was a really nice way to put myself out there and not having to be perfect constantly.
Seeing other people do it REALLY motivated me and I wanted to know what doing something so cool and unique felt like.
2. How has it helped you learn more about yourself?
Tyla: Oh my gosh, doing youtube has literally help me more than anything and everything to truly find myself and be happy with myself and also learn about myself.
It was of course, SO scary at the age of 12 making a youtube channel and honestly it took me roughly a year to actually upload something THEN tell my parents. And actually I’m SO SO SO happy I did!! When I told my parents- they were naturally worried for me, you know putting myself on the internet at such a young age and that anyone around the world can see me BUT when I explain the basics to them they just accepted that this is something m really happy and love doing, so they let me carry on and truly support me with everything- the one thing they always say to me is “ there Is going to be some nasty people comment something sometimes, you need to understand thats okay and you cant hate yourself for it!” Of course I already knew this but I think they wanted to make sure I did know that.
Finding myself on youtube does sound weird but having anxiety and all my other disabilities, its really hard to actually know who you are- with & without them.
Doing youtube has help me find my passion for makeup, and love for creating content for me more than anyone. And I learnt along the way- as longs I’m happy with what I put onto my channel THATS OKAY! Not everyone is going to love every video of mine or every makeup look I do or every type of editing I try. But you can’t please everyone!
By learning this I’ve learnt that, that’s the exact same in real life. Not everyone is going to like/love me and not everyone is going to love the way I do things etc and accepting that on youtube vs in real life was tricky.
I’ve learnt LOADS of positive things about my self, like which certain makeup looks look good on me and hair styles, outfit etc but I’ve also learnt things like how to talk slower instead of rushing what I have to say since I did that a lot. But with positive does come negative, I’ve learn my posture isn’t the BEST I could be, also editing your face at LEAST weekly you do see certain things called flaws on you and you can start to hate on them. Id tried embracing them etc but of course thats a working progress and most of the things are!
3. What advice do you have for people who are considering creating a YouTube channel to share their story?
Tyla: My biggest piece of advice, is quite a classic and cheesy one but its BE YOURSELF!
Trying to be someone else isn’t going to make you a better person! Trust me.
Also being yourself sound easy but this also means ACCEPTING WHO YOU ARE AND YOUR FLAWS! Whether you love yourself or not, accepting flaws are hard- don’t ignore them but work on loving them and why there a good thing rather then bad!
Tell YOUR story, not some random popular girls story that you want to be like.
You tell your story, YOU gain better people! don’t be afraid because you think someone might not like you being you have a certain thing that makes you slightly different to them.
Honestly, just try your best to LOVE YOURSELF more and more each day.
If you don’t like something and you simply cannot love it even with trying- change it!
NO I don’t mean get a nose job or boob job but contour, wear a better bra.
Mine was my body- and I’m working on it slowly, loosing weight and eating better- I don’t want to be supermodel skinny but I do want a flatter tummy!
4. What is next for your YouTube channel? What are your goals?
Tyla: This question is one of those I love but also hate answering but simply I cannot control my future- BUT I CAN SURE AS HELL TRY.
My goal Is to carry on working super hard and working on my little nits and bobs.
my ULTIMATE goal right now is to become a profession makeup artist and to eventually have my own company ranging from Makeup- brushes- skincare- clothes-shoes-home wear- just an all round company HOWEVER I want to focus on makeup and brushes for now, and we’ll see what the future holds.
As for smaller goals, for my youtube channel - naturally I want to grow my channel more and start doing more paid work so I can continue doing what I love but also get paid for it BUT thats never a given - you don't just wake up rich! For now I’m just doing this as a hobby but I treat it as my work. I try to upload weekly and for the moth of July DAILY! So that way I really get out there and show what I can do! Since I am only 16 in August and I’m uploading lots of videos!
Non Youtube goals though are slightly different to makeup! Which I don’t think I’ve fully gone into it before but… I’m actually working towards becoming an RE teacher- or just a teacher in general. Of course this is a lot of work and I’m going to a college for my disabilities which will help me get a start into this but YES! Tyla Bradby might become a teacher! HAHA
I could mixed the two and one day become a makeup teacher BUT HEY! We never know!
5. What is the most important piece of advice you'd share with someone who is struggling?
Tyla: If you are someone who is struggling right now, honestly I want to just take a second to say, I truly feel for you! And that you will honestly get through this. You just cant give up!
Something I do when I feel like I’m struggling (and it sounds lame) is to look up motivational quotes, quotes are something you can read and connect to and it feels good when you find one that works! I usually set one as my phones wall paper to make sure I read it regularly, but you could write it out, print it out, anything really that works for you.
A key thing to do when your struggling is actually to do something that you actually ENJOY doing! This will help you become happier and change those negative thoughts into something good, obviously I don’t know YOU personally so I cant say do ‘this’ and you’ll feel better but it could be reading, watching films or your favourite tv show, colouring, walking, people watching, sunbathing, going out whether thats to a party or to your local shopping centre, anything. IT DOES HELP!
Try to stay positive and IF you can TALK to some one about what your struggling with - it is actually A LOT harder than it sounds, I know! But if you somehow manage to- it will hep everyone in the long run!
Whatever you are struggling with, will come and go, REMEMBER, if it comes- it will GO again! So just trust yourself to be able to get through it and you will!
Because quotes are a huge thing for me I do just want to write some below:
“Theres always a reason to smile, you just have to find it.”
“The best way to get things done, is to simply start.”
“Beauty begins the month you decide to be yourself.”
“Its okay to be a glow stick, sometimes we need to break before we shine.”
“You’re a diamond dear. They cant break you.”
“Everything has beauty. But not everyone can see it.”
“When it rains, look for rainbows. When its dark, look for stars.”
“Just be yourself. Let people see the real, imperfect, flawed, quirky, weird, beautiful, magical person that you are.”
“You have health with so much, and done the best you can, take a moment now to appreciate how strong you are.”
“Enjoy the little things!”